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IT’S FIRST DAY OF SPRING

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Yet… nothing around me says it is, it’s still cold and rainy, I’m still curling next to the fire place, haven’t seen the sun in days, and haven’t seen any flowers yet!

Not sure how it’s gonna be in the next few weeks, all I know that I’m really ready for any other season other than winter!!!

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BAJD: My little piece of Jordan

As I was thinking on what to write about in “Blog About Jordan Day”, all I had in mind was all the conversation that Samer and me always have about our future plans, and how we are eventually going back to Jordan as it’s our “Home”.

But I couldn’t hide the feeling that I already feel home, I already have a piece of Jordan that I adore, my home sickness became way less since I got married, and so is his, I can totally understand why his became less as he was living by himself, but it was weird for me, as I was already living with my mom, dad, 3 brothers, and my uncle and his family, I really couldn’t understand why would I feel home when I already have my family and extended family around, I was always thinking about Jordan, and counting the days in able to have few days of vacation to spend it with my friends in Jordan, it was all what occupied my mind at that time.

Until I met Samer 3 years ago (wow it has been 3 years since I first talked to him), he was the first Jordanian guys I spoke to since I came to the states, and the weirdest thing happened, I felt HOME, this guys is from Jordan, and it was amazing talking about things we both used to do when we were back home, the places, the streets, he made me miss Jordan, he was sharing his stories about school days in Jordan, he was and still my little piece of Jordan, I don’t feel home sick anymore when I’m with him, I really don’t know how to explain it, but we are both agreed that eventually we will leave the states and go back “Home”, but it truly doesn’t matter to me anymore as long as I’m with him, it feels home wherever we go J I already have my little piece of Jordan with me, and it’s just great.

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This is the last warning, DON’T #$%)&* PISS ME OFF!!

To all of you out there, I’m not gonna mention your names this time, but I swear to god, this the last post I will not mention it in!!

I’ve posted this one before, but it fits here too.

DON'T

 

you will regret pissing me off for the rest of your lives!

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The Best Way to Solve a Problem: Give Up

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Sometimes the easiest way to solve a problem is to stop participating in the problem. Sometimes the smartest choice is giving up.

I don’t think that giving up should be your primary method for dealing with problems. But there are certainly a lot of cases where it just seems to be the most intelligent answer.

Giving up is really about honoring your feelings. It’s about giving up trying to force yourself into a mold of societal shoulds and embracing your true self.

So here’s an invitation to…

  • Give up trying to be perfect.
  • Give up trying to be cool.
  • Give up wanting to be different for the sake of being unique.
  • Give up keeping relationships with people you don’t really like.
  • Give up trying to be the center of attention.
  • Give up trying to be important. (Focusing on community is usually more fulfilling.)
  • Give up achieving a lot of ego-driven goals.
  • Give up caring about owning a lot of cool things, which keep you distracted from acknowledging that you don’t like what you’re doing with your life.

With that said, there are a lot of ways we think we’re doing well, but we’re really not.

Counter-intuitive to what you think, it might make more sense to…

  • Give up trying to be super happy all the time. Instead, settle for being peaceful.
  • Give up trying to live up to the expectation of… yourself.
  • Give up needing a reason to share your love. Being alive is reason enough.
  • Give up trying to be everything to everyone.
  • Give up caring about being the smartest, best and fastest. At least don’t let your ego get caught up in it.
  • Give up trying to constantly improve yourself.
  • Give up caring about doing what works.
  • Give up caring about knowing everything in advance before you take action. Put yourself on auto-response instead.
  • Give up trying to always find interesting experiences and interesting things to do.
  • Give up trying to live up to the expectation of your parents, your friends, your boss, and peers.
  • Give up trying to have a flawless body, perfect face, or an impeccable wardrobe.

 

Trying to make things happen all the time creates a lot of unnecessary anxiety. It’s stressful trying to deny what is.

When I give up, I accept life as it is. No strings attached. No wishing things were different. If an action needs to be taken, I take it. But I’ve given up letting my happiness be dependent on a thing.

It’s interesting how we seem to have so many problems, so many dilemmas. But most of the time the answer to solving them is doing nothing. Giving up.

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Your Extraordinary Mind

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Knowledge… The Battle Inside Our Mind

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We’ve all had the experience of being our own worst critic. One part of our mind is encouraging, the other is doubtful. One side of our mind says “follow your dreams!” and the other side says “you’ll never make it.”

Is it possible that the story of Adam and Eve can explain this conflict, this battle for our mind?

Adam and Eve lived in the Garden of Eden, they lived in communion with God, they were one with Him.

But when Adam and Eve ate the fruit from the Tree of Knowledge, they experienced separation from God. For the first time they started searching for what they already had within them.

I’m not sure what I’m trying to say here, it’s just a thought that crossed my mind when i saw this book with my co-worker

In The Voice of Knowledge, Don Miguel Ruiz offers the familiar story of Adam and Eve from a different light.

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How to Find Your Purpose in Life

Growing up, I spent a lot of time thinking about the purpose of life. In school they would tell you the purpose is to go to heaven and to be a good person. “Why?” I always thought. There’s no question that being a good person is essential for living a fulfilling life. But what’s the point? Why do anything at all?

Why is a meaningless question. The reason being, why always leads us in an infinite loop. You can always repeat the answer to “why” with another “why.” The only time the question really ends is when you answer “because it’s fun” or “because I enjoy it.”

This took me a while to accept, but the purpose of life is to enjoy it. If you’re trying to find the purpose of life, by looking for something outside of life, you’re never going to find an answer. That’s because the purpose of life is life.

That doesn’t help you much, does it? We all want a larger purpose, something to give our lives meaning when everything seems meaningless.

The truth is, life doesn’t have a purpose. That’s hard to swallow. When I realized this, I felt lost. I felt confused and I felt like giving up.

What I failed to realize is that life doesn’t have a purpose because of free will. There is no purpose forced on you. You can choose to have a purpose, or to not have a purpose, but life isn’t going to give you one. You don’t need to let this bother you though. The only reason you need for having a purpose is because you want one.

The only question you need to answer now, is do you want a purpose or do you not want one? As soon as you figure that out, let me know. I’ll wait.

I’m assuming that if you’re still reading, your answer was yes. That’s good, because not having a purpose isn’t very fun. At least not for me.

Now that we have that sorted out, we need to understand one crucial thing that drives people to insanity and causes them to spend their lives in the confines of a cubicle.

And that is:

Your purpose is not your job

Yes, that’s right. Your purpose has nothing to do with your degree, your resume, your career, or vocation. Your purpose is independent of all those things. In fact, it’s much bigger than any of those.

Purpose has to do with your creative self expression. It has to do with what makes you feel alive. It’s something you do, where at the end of the day you think “I made a difference.”

Now, if you want to find out what that is, take a minute to do a little exercise that I read bout once long time ago ( I wish I can remember the source!!)

1. Take out a blank sheet of paper or open word, or notepad, Whatever works best for you.

2. Now write at the top “What is my true purpose in life?”

3. Write everything that comes to mind. Don’t think about it too much, just write.

4. Keep writing until you write something that makes you cry. That is your purpose.

When you come up with your final answer, you will know it. It won’t be something you’ve decided logically, you will simply know it in your heart.

If you find this exercise to not be structured enough, change the question to “How would I want to be remembered when I die?”

After you’ve discovered your purpose, your job is to live as closely in alignment with it as possible. The more you live in alignment with your purpose or your bliss, the more you will deeply enjoy your life.

Now remember when I said that your “job” is not your purpose? Well, it’s half-true. Your career can be a medium for the expression of your purpose. If your purpose is to help others live in truth and express your inner creativity, you’re probably not going to be able to do that very well working as an file-clerk for a company that is greedy and self-serving. You can live partially in alignment with your purpose this way, trying to help others and going against the morals or your employer, but you’re still ultimately assisting corporate greed.

You’ll probably find living in complete harmony with your purpose isn’t easy. It might take you a year, or a few years before you find a medium (a career path) that best serves the expression of your purpose. If you can’t find a job out there that does that, you might have to create one .

So how do you move more in alignment with your purpose? How do you take your purpose and your dreams and make them a reality?

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Kill Your Expectations and Stop Caring For a Better Life

“Write down your goals.” The age old advice you’ll hear on every self-development blog. As if you just write them down, everything else will take care of itself.

Poof!

Life is complete and you can rest in peace.

Not quite.

I don’t really have a lot of goals. In fact, I make it a point to not have them because they make me miserable. That doesn’t mean I don’t aim and aspire to do awesome things. I do. Life wouldn’t be worth living without that. It’s just that I don’t have a goal sheet. I don’t have a list of achievements I want to make in the next 3 months, 6 months, or 5 years.

Why?

Because goals have hurt me more than they’ve helped.

If you’re anything like me, you want to do a lot. You don’t dream tiny. You dream big. Really big.

You-want-it-all.

And there’s nothing wrong with that. The problem is that too often we get our goals caught up in who we are. If we don’t achieve them, we’re a failure. I’ve certainly felt like this so many times in my life. So instead of goals, I try to live based on principles. I try to live in alignment with what I value most. Instead of having unrealistic and fantastic goals, I have aspirations and dreams instead.

While goals seem nice and pretty on the outside, not so nice on the inside. You think they’ll help you. After all, isn’t the point of having goals to help you create a better life?

But exactly the opposite happens. They end up owning you.

You measure how much you’ve done to meet your goals. You usually shoot for the moon. You aim high when you set your goals and that’s a good thing right? The problem is you usually fall short. Then you punish yourself for not achieving everything you wanted to. Your mind thinks “if you don’t achieve this, if you don’t live up to this image of perfection, you’re not allowed to be happy.”

That’s ridiculous.

I’ve lived too long like that and I just can’t do it anymore. I can’t let seemingly positive things force me to walk around unhappy all the time because I’m falling short. It’s not worth it.

So as I said earlier, instead of goals I have ideals that I try to live by. I value certain things like family, freedom, fitness, and creativity. As long as I’m doing things that keep me in alignment with those things, I’m happy. I don’t have a goal to become more creative by reading 7 books next month. I don’t have a goal to run 6 miles a day. Because if I don’t, I’ll inevitably beat myself up. I failed. My ego gets wrapped up in it and I obsess over it.

Just like I’ve decided being lazy is better for me, I’ve decided to give up on goals.

I’ve also found a few other seemingly counterintuitive things work better for me:

§  I’ve stopped caring a lot.

§  I’ve learned that doing more doesn’t usually bring me more happiness. But doing less does.

§  I’ve learned that doing “what works” doesn’t really work for me.

§  I’ve learned that constantly trying to improve your life, can often make it worse.

I’ve learned that taking it easy and following your natural rhythms is much more important than productivity. What matters most is how much joy you’re currently experiencing in the present moment. If you’re putting off your happiness until you accomplish something, you’re failing at life.

We can’t wait to appreciate things another day. Our happiness cannot be determined by a to-do list or the achievement of goals.

I’ve stopped making goals because I often find myself living in the future. I’m so obsessed with completing the goal, it often makes the task a chore. I just want to finish it. I lose sight of why I’m doing it in the first place, to have a better life.

I’ve also stopped (as much as I can, it’s not easy) having expectations. As Michael Landon said once “I don’t have expectations. Expectations in your life just lead to giant disappointments.” That doesn’t mean I don’t put forth any effort to make things good, I do. I’m just not attached the outcome. If things don’t turn out the way I wanted them to, I’ll naturally get disappointed and start going on an emotional rollercoaster. It’s better to do what you can and let things happen as they will.

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